Do you struggle to meditate for 15, 10, even 5 minutes? Do you also struggle with low confidence or self-esteem? If you answered yes even possibly maybe, that’s okay, because many of us do, it’s just that no one talks about it. Furthermore, not many of us know that there is a relationship between the two.
For years I struggled with low confidence and self-esteem. It began in my childhood and carried on into my twenties. It wasn’t till I found the practice of mindfulness meditation that I was able to learn to be comfortable with the uncomfortable.
What many don’t know is that when your self-worth, confidence, and self-esteem are subjected to your own harsh judgement then you don’t have the ability to sit with yourself through that discomfort. When you aren’t able to sit and love yourself unconditionally with full acceptance, then you won’t have the ability to sit with yourself through any discomfort you may be experiencing, let alone meditate.
The inability to meditate is the inability to separate yourself from your thoughts, to be present in the moment with yourself non-judgementally.
So what’s the relationship between the two? Well, building the ability to be able to sit with yourself comfortably is something that can be learned through any sort of meditative practice. Imagine being able to observe your thoughts in a non-judgemental way that allows you to see them for what they are without them taking control over you. This is what can be achieved through meditation. Meditation is unique in that it allows you to separate yourself from your thoughts while simultaneously building a deeper connection with yourself. And that ability, that loving, non-judgemental relationship with yourself is a big contributing factor towards building positive self-esteem and confidence.
Patterns of overwhelming negative thoughts and beliefs have the potential to diminish your confidence and self-esteem. And when your confidence and self-esteem are impacted negatively it begins to impact the others areas of your life such as parenting, intimate relationships, work performance, and so forth. With our little ones curiously watching our every move in order to learn and fine-tune their own abilities it’s important that we feel confident and empowered.
If you want to learn tools that empower you so that your confidence and self-esteem are no longer reliant on the absence of those debilitating thoughts and beliefs then you need to practice meditation. Silent deep meaningful meditation will teach you how to sit with yourself through both the good and the hard, and as mums, we have all had our fair share of hard moments.
There are no bad moments in parenting, just hard moments, and that’s okay.
See the reality is we can’t control the world and what happens. We can however, learn specific tools that allow us to become more comfortable, flexible, and resilient when life ‘happens’.
Tools, such as meditation, allow us to become comfortable with being uncomfortable. Meditation allows us to become more resilient, protecting our confidence and self-esteem.
Now I wont lie, meditation does take time to master. But the good news is meditation is not a talent but simply a skill that can anyone can develop over time with practice. And believe me when I say it’s one of the most effective tools you can have in your toolbox to help build resilience, confidence, and self-esteem.
So pretty much to sum up everything, developing and harnessing the life skill of meditation will help you to develop and harness the ability to sit with yourself through the uncomfortable and in turn build on your self-esteem and confidence.